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WHAT’S SLEEP GOT TO DO WITH RELATIONSHIPS?

Help! There aren’t enough hours in my day!

But what does this have to do with love and romance? Everything! Many of us lead such busy lives, we wonder how to find more hours in an already jam-packed day.

The popular solution: borrow from our sleep allotment—an hour here an hour there, no problem, right?

Wrong.

Before long, our bodies will show signs of sleep depriment:

1. Frequent drowsiness

2. Decreased work performance

3. Memory loss

4. Hallucinations

5. Foggy thinking

6. And a constant desire to curl into a ball on a hard-backed office chair.

Eventually, lack of adequate sleep causes irritability, which might lead to out-of-control tempers with the dog, coworkers, or even spouses. Finding a date or doing acts of kindness for our spouses would be the last thing on our to-do list. This might lead to poor relationships, irrational behaviors, frequent illnesses, and much worse–long-term illnesses.

Clearly, sleep isn’t the place to cut corners. Our bodies require six to eight hours for our cells to rejuvenate—the so-called beauty sleep. Downtime for cell rebuilding is essential.

So then, how can we find more minutes in a day?

How about setting goals?

For example, spend no more than one hour a day on social media. If an hour allotment per day is divided into fifteen-minute intervals, four times a day, social media becomes manageable. Set a timer for every fifteen minutes. Instead of reading everything, choose quality content. Likewise, set a time goal for anything that takes up too much time–texting, emailing, watching TV, video games, talking on the phone, etc.

Yay, problem solved, right? Wrong.

Now, readjustment of the sleep schedule is critical since it’s been discombobulated.

Start by going to bed at an appointed time every day. Once in bed, try one or more of these calming activities:

1. Read a warm-hearted book, preferably romance–hint, hint. It calms our bodies from a busy day, and as an added benefit, it may inspire good dreams. Besides, words scrolling across a page lure many people to sleep. After a few days, curling under the covers at the appointed time will be a cinch.

2. Listen to soothing music. It calms the heartbeat, respirations, and the mind. Here’s a beautiful song for relaxation– Hallelujah: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TT5u2xVEO5M

3. Watch a Christian romance movie. Yes, they’re sappy, but they’re clean, the plot plays out smoothly, the music is sweet and restful, and the ending warms our hearts. And as an added bonus, we might have sweet dreams.

4. This is really number one–pray. Ask God to grant peace, rest, and a wonderful night’s sleep. Before “amen” falls from our lips, we’ll drift into a dream-filled wonderland.

Chocolate-Dipped Strawberries

THE PERFECT CHRISTMAS GIFT OF ALL TIME

Probably the number one question during the Christmas season is—what is the perfect gift? Well, that, and what should we serve for Christmas dinner? I imagine search engines are overworked finding these answers.

Is there a perfect gift?

Over the years, we told our children that anything they made for us would be our perfect gifts. Every Christmas, they set about creating. We received hand-sewn dolls, beautifully painted pictures, a few fantastic cross-stitch pictures, several amazing bookmarks, and lots of coupon books for fixing dinner and performing chores to make our lives easier. I cherished the hours they spent to make us happy. Those gifts have forever been my favorites. The best presents, the most perfect ones, come from the heart. Here’s an easy gift from the heart that isn’t too costly.

These chocolate-covered strawberries make a perfect Christmas present wrapped with cellophane and topped with a bow. But their perfection reminds me of the purest, most loving, sacrificial gift imaginable, and it came at a price.

Whether the date is December 25th or not, God sent His Son to earth to be born in a manger. He did it because of His unfathomable love for His people.

I’ll never forget the story of Abraham and Isaac in Genesis Chapter 22. God called to Abraham one day after his promised, long-awaited son, Isaac, had grown into a young man. God told Abraham to take his beloved son to Mt. Moriah and to offer him as a sacrifice there. Imagine what Abraham must have thought: Why would God promise me a son, then tell me to sacrifice him?

But Abraham obeyed and headed up the mountain with two servants, plus Isaac and a donkey. When they neared the place God had directed, Abraham left the donkey and his servants and made Isaac carry the wood for his sacrifice. After they arrived at the appointed spot, Abraham readied Isaac with the wood on an altar. But as Abraham prepared to perform the sacrifice, God stopped him.

The first time I read this passage, I was overwhelmed with grief for Abraham. He had waited one hundred years, and his wife, Sarah, had waited ninety years to beget Isaac, yet God asked Abraham to sacrifice their only son.

Did you know that the story of Abraham and Isaac is a picture of how heart-breaking it was for God to give up His only son as the redeemer for our sins—especially since Jesus spread love and kindness, healed the sick, and did no wrong.

Read Genesis Chapter 22 and look for the parallels between Abraham sacrificing Isaac and God sacrificing Jesus. Isaac even carried the wood for his sacrifice on his back as Jesus did in carrying the cross.

I’ll never forget the magnitude of God’s love for us. As we give Christmas presents, let us remember God’s sacrificial gift and remember to thank Him. John 3:16.

Please enjoy this music: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O_pae1ZfxWw

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LOVE NOTES

THE OPPOSITE OF NEGATIVE IS POSITIVE AND IT’S ALWAYS A CHOICE

My wonderful husband made many trips out to sea during his twenty years in the Navy. When our children were in grade school, he would frequently receive orders to a duty station across the country—sometimes even mid school year. We were a family determined to stay together, so we always packed-up and joined him.

Quite often, my poor bummed-out hubby would have to ship out to sea a few days after our arrival. Our destinations included Seattle, Washington; Virginia Beach, Virginia; Key West, Florida; Millington, Tennessee; Belle Chase, Louisiana; San Diego, California; Mare Island, California; Coronado, California; Great Lakes, Illinois; Mayport, Florida; and Lexington Park, Maryland. Most often the children and I were stranded in a new, completely strange-looking city without family or friends–nothing but a map to guide our way.

But there are two ways to look at any situation. I like to find the joy or humor hidden in every circumstance. So, I would ask the kids, “Are you ready for a new adventure?” My excitement would bubble over into their little hearts. They would get wide-eyed with enthusiasm.

I’d spread brochures from visitor’s centers across the carpet, and we’d sprawl across the floor inspecting sites to visit and things to do. I never wanted the kids to be fearful or depressed about moving. I suppose I could have been fearful, not knowing anyone in a strange city, but I always knew God was with us, leading, guiding, and protecting. All I had to do was remember to ask Him for help. God always came through for us. I felt worse for my husband who was required to report to a ship full of gruff, irritable men who likewise didn’t want to leave their families. Imagine living on a metal ship wallpapered with testosterone 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Not only could tempers flare, but fumes would overwhelm.

In my earnest desire to make my hubby’s sea time a little more tolerable, I started a tradition of writing love notes and tucking them inside his folded clothes—shirts, pants, underwear, each sock, tee shirts, etc–before rolling them up and tamping them down into his duffle bag (the Navy man’s equivalent of a suitcase).

The notes were inspirational, loving, and laced with humor. Brian said he looked forward to getting dressed every day. The notes kept him smiling.

Well, I wanted my children to feel good about attending new schools, as well, so I hid love notes in their lunch boxes–between the bread in sandwiches, between cookies, wrapped around juice boxes, or inside thermos caps, etc. I even drew goofy pictures on their napkins. My kids would return from school, laughing every day.

The best thing was that other kids would ask them why they were laughing. When they shared their notes, they made new friends.

Love notes are great to send anytime people need cheering.

Finding a good church wherever we went helped tremendously, as well. Through Sunday School classes, we met new friends. We were never alone for long. I would invite mothers with children over for lunch. We’d chit chat while our children played. I also connected with the wives of the other sailors on my husband’s ship. We encouraged and supported one another.

So, at every new duty station, we immediately had to make friends. We learned new cultures, new foods, and new ways of doing things completely different from the way things were done in the last area of the country—who would have guessed that Americans are unique in different cities.

But through it all, we were resilient and learned how to make friends quickly—one of the bonuses of our lovely, sometimes crazy, but always fun adventures.

My question is—how do you view challenges in life? Do you look for positives or dwell on the negatives?

Try writing some love notes and surprise the ones you love. You might receive a surprise yourself.